With friends such as these…
The human body is full of and is surrounded by electric currents and electro-magnetic fields. In other words, ENERGY. This energy is constantly being picked up and shared by other people. That’s why we sometimes say things like “He’s not on my wavelength” or “She’s giving me bad vibes.” When you are trying to take yourself forward and bring happiness and success into your life, you would do well to think hard about your friends and what each of them means to you.
At least once a year, we recommend that you make a list of everyone that you have come into contact with or spoken to on more than one occasion in the last month. This list can then be used as an acquaintance audit. This may sound ruthless, but you should really consider what effect each one of those people is having on your life. We have discovered that it is helpful to put people into one of these three categories:
DRAGGERS, SUPPORTERS and IGNITERS.
You know what it’s like to spend time with a dragger. The conversation is dull, often negative and there are very few laughs. Dragger’s make you experience their low energy levels and to understand how it feels so they can elicit your sympathy. They are draggers because they literally drag you down. The longer you spend with them the more your energy will be sapped away. You are best advised to say goodbye to these people. The sooner the better. They are not interested in you, only in inflicting their pain upon you, or any other willing listener for that matter.
Supporters are brilliant. They cheer you on, tell you you’re wonderful and make you feel good. They listen to you intently and agree with your views. They are interested in you. They make you feel happy, although they don’t excite you or spark new ideas your energy levels remain neutral and therefore supporters are good people to know.
Your life is much better though, when you find igniters. Igniters are people who make things happen. They go through life taking full responsibility for everything they do. They are alive with curiosity, and they are open to new experiences. They are successful and creative and are continually looking at ways to make their lives better. When they find a great way of doing something, they will tell you about it. When they see something they like about your life, they will ask you all about it and they will complement you. They share their zest for life with you and their energy is contagious. Your energy levels are boosted. Igniters are interested in you, and you are interested in them. Igniters are great people and you should hang on to them!
Not sure who is a dragger, supporter or igniter? Easy, take the mobile phone test. When you look through the contacts in your phone, imagine how you would feel if each one called you right now. Would you answer immediately not matter what you were doing? If so, that person is an igniter! If they rang you and you would take their call except when you were really busy, then they are supporters! Lastly, if you see the name, let out a sigh and think, ‘I just don’t have the energy to speak to them right now’, you have identified a dragger! Just also consider if you feel like that just seeing their name, the detrimental effect they have on you when you are with them in person.
