Symptom and cause for confidence

A set of dominos propped up

In the 1970s, there was a period in the UK when the bin collection department was on strike for a significant period of time. As a consequence, festering rubbish accumulated and bags full of waste were piled high along the roads and streets.

Inevitably, thanks to the ever-growing mounds of rubbish, and infestation of rats and insect ensued. Councils tried to rectify the situation by spraying insect killer and putting down rat poison. However, as one wave of insects were eradicated, another wave would appear. This cycle of events carried on for some time. Indeed, the mounds of rotten rubbish were a symptom of the strike and similarly the insects and the rats were a symptom of the rubbish. It was only when the strike was over and the rubbish was removed, that the insect and rat infestation disappeared permanently.

This is a great example of how a cause – the strike – resulted in a build-up of rubbish, which in turn, caused an infestation of rats and insects. Without the rubbish there would have been no infestation.

The same is true of behaviours. Once you identify, address and resolve the cause that drives the behaviour, the symptoms will disappear almost effortlessly.

This is the basis of our approach to confidence and how we hope to help you. Our intention is to help direct you, to recognise what beliefs no longer serve you, and how to remove them to give you a fresh, untarnished, decluttered and clean foundation of confidence and self-belief.

Extract from our book, Everyday Confidence. Please keep an eye on our TikTok channel for new uploads every week, with specific videos on confidence. Also, we’d love to see you at one of our upcoming workshops this year, where we go into much greater detail on our approach, tips, techniques and methods.

Nik & Eva Speakman

We have studied and worked together since 1992. Between us we have studied human behaviour and psychology for seven decades. We both share an uncontainable passion to offer hope and to help people lead happier and less inhibited lives.

After many remarkable breakthroughs we created our own behavioural change therapy, ‘Schema Conditioning.’® Subsequent work with trauma victims and their related symptoms, led to the creation of two further trauma-based therapies.

‘Schema Conditioning Psychotherapy.’®

‘Visual Schema Displacement Therapy (VSDT)’®

‘Visual Schema Detachment & Restructuring (VSDR)’®

Qualifications from the creation of our therapies, resulted in training psychology professors, doctors and masters students at Universities in Amsterdam and Utrecht. In 2015, this training produced the two sets of scientific studies conducted into the workings of our therapy; the first two study papers highlighting the remarkable efficacy, was published in the Journal of Behaviour Therapy and Experimental Psychiatry in June 2019. A further third study was then published in the European Journal of Psychotraumatology in April 2021, with a fourth clinical study with hospital patients is currently underway and will be completed by the end of 2022.

In addition to members of the public, we work with, and have treated many high-profile clients and ‘A’ list clients around the world, having had prodigious successes. We are resident therapists on ITV’s multi award-winning ‘This Morning’ and have been for over a decade, we have also had own television shows, one of which, ‘The Speakmans’, also aired on ITV and several countries worldwide. Over the last two decades we have appeared on numerous other television shows as experts, such as the multi award-winning Saturday Night Takeaway.

Our mission is to illuminate that there is ALWAYS HOPE and that overcoming trauma and improving quality of life is entirely possible. Many people have either never been given hope, or worse had hope taken away from them, our aim is to correct that by sharing our message in any way we possibly can, including live workshops, theatre tours, books, podcasts, radio, television, social media and YouTube.

At the heart of all we do, is our relentless mission to offer HOPE to as many people as we possibly can.

https://nikandeva.com
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