The path of emotions to happiness

14 Mar

The path of emotions

It can be said that our two most primal instincts are:

To survive
To pro-create

These instincts keep the human race going! Sadly, there’s no primal drive to make us blissfully happy. Herein lies the problem that we face as human beings…

“The most important decision we will ever have to make is whether we live in a friendly or hostile universe.” – Anon

We all have to accept that if we want to live a life of happiness, we have to create feelings of happiness from within. We then need to couple these internal emotions with external experiences, and actions. We must practise them continually – you have to work at being happy! However, it’s worth it.

Think of happiness like being physically fit. It is impossible to go to the gym once, and then suddenly attain a toned and healthy body. Fitness is a process that has to become a lifestyle. Being happy (and creating happiness) is no different.

The scale of happiness

The good news is; you cannot be at both ends of the scale of happiness at the same time. You cannot feel afraid or angry, if you’re having fun and you’re laughing. Therefore it is vital to direct ourselves to the positive side of the scale.

Happiness is not a genetic predisposition, created by luck, or something predestined by birth. You need to take positive steps to create positive emotions, such as spending time with friends who make you feel good about yourself, watching TV programmes or films that will make you laugh, practising gratitude every day, and learning to love yourself.

Extract from our book, Conquering Anxiety. Please keep an eye on our TikTok channel for new uploads every week, with specific videos on anxiety. Also, we’d love to see you at one of our upcoming workshops this year, where we go into much greater detail on our approach, tips, techniques and methods.

Nik & Eva Speakman

We have studied and worked together since 1992. Between us we have studied human behaviour and psychology for seven decades. We both share an uncontainable passion to offer hope and to help people lead happier and less inhibited lives.

After many remarkable breakthroughs we created our own behavioural change therapy, ‘Schema Conditioning.’® Subsequent work with trauma victims and their related symptoms, led to the creation of two further trauma-based therapies.

‘Schema Conditioning Psychotherapy.’®

‘Visual Schema Displacement Therapy (VSDT)’®

‘Visual Schema Detachment & Restructuring (VSDR)’®

Qualifications from the creation of our therapies, resulted in training psychology professors, doctors and masters students at Universities in Amsterdam and Utrecht. In 2015, this training produced the two sets of scientific studies conducted into the workings of our therapy; the first two study papers highlighting the remarkable efficacy, was published in the Journal of Behaviour Therapy and Experimental Psychiatry in June 2019. A further third study was then published in the European Journal of Psychotraumatology in April 2021, with a fourth clinical study with hospital patients is currently underway and will be completed by the end of 2022.

In addition to members of the public, we work with, and have treated many high-profile clients and ‘A’ list clients around the world, having had prodigious successes. We are resident therapists on ITV’s multi award-winning ‘This Morning’ and have been for over a decade, we have also had own television shows, one of which, ‘The Speakmans’, also aired on ITV and several countries worldwide. Over the last two decades we have appeared on numerous other television shows as experts, such as the multi award-winning Saturday Night Takeaway.

Our mission is to illuminate that there is ALWAYS HOPE and that overcoming trauma and improving quality of life is entirely possible. Many people have either never been given hope, or worse had hope taken away from them, our aim is to correct that by sharing our message in any way we possibly can, including live workshops, theatre tours, books, podcasts, radio, television, social media and YouTube.

At the heart of all we do, is our relentless mission to offer HOPE to as many people as we possibly can.

https://nikandeva.com

The path of emotions to happiness