Are you guilty of self-sabotage?
Follow your dreams
Following your dream means facing your TRUE SELF. You need a HUGE amount of courage, and TONS of self-belief. Fear is the number one reason why people do not aim high. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure and paradoxically a fear of success! Fearful people are scares to make a decision, and would rather wait until they are 100% sure of the outcome, or for the decision to made for them. Remember, you can only feel 100% sure of your outcome, after you have found your source of motivation, and achieved it.
Step out of your comfort zone
You may feel comfortable with the familiar, but you will experience (by far!) the greatest personal rewards when you do something to step out of your comfort zone. Moving away from the familiar is even harder if you also add in zero self-confidence, lack of self-control, self-limiting labels and all other manner of negative thinking habits which may be conditioned programs. These may have been installed by family, friends, teachers and peer groups.
Although consciously it sounds ridiculous, it never surprises us when we hear in our clinic that someone still believes the things they were told by a classmate at primary school. Would you alter your whole life today, if a 9-year-old were to tell you something? Probably not, yet this is what so many people are actually doing.
Negative emotions like anger, grief, shame, anxiety, sadness, guilt, regret and jealousy can all raise your blood pressure and unbalance your immune system, which can lead to strokes and heart attacks. However, before you even get to that stage, you will experience a pretty poor quality of life. Alcohol, drugs, cigarettes and binge eating are just some of the ways people fill the void in their lives. So what personal demons are plaguing you, it’s time to face up to them and KICK THEM OUT! You don’t need them, they will drag you down. They will kill your motivation and eventually kill you!
Every behaviour (good and bad) is associated with a perception that it will produce a positive outcome in some way. For example, someone who drinks a bottle of red wine might associate it with the idea of better health (because it neutralizes cholesterol?!) Someone who smokes may associate it with being cool, and mixing with cool people. Eating chocolate might conjure up the idea of reward, and so on…
Behaviours that may have been learned, can be unlearned. There is no such thing as addiction, only bad habits, and habits can be broken. If you PASSIONATELY want to give up any of these habits, you must start by telling yourself that from this day on:
“I am teetotal”
“I am a non-smoker”
“I am able to control my eating-habits”
Visualise yourself as this brilliant, healthy, positive person, exploding with a zest for life.
