An introduction to conquering anxiety

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Stop worrying, beat stress and feel happy again

We are all masters of our own destiny. To recognise and understand that you are suffering from anxiety, you have moved closer towards the life you want and deserve – a life filled with inner peace and contentment.

On a daily basis, we work with people who are suffering from anxiety, anxiety disorders and panic attacks. It truly saddens us that for many people, dealing with anxiety can be such a daily struggle – many people we see develop a fear of the fact they will have to wake up and live with anxiety every day.

Anxiety is a symptom

Anxiety (and the feelings associated with anxiety) is not a cause, but a symptom. From working closely with our clients and seeing anxiety manifest itself in every possible way, we have come to understand that there is always a trigger, or several triggers that cause the negative symptoms associated with anxiety.

We believe that everyone is born free from anxiety. No one is destined to live a life consumed by anxiety. As a result, our life’s work has been (and will continue to focus on) alleviating anxiety, negativity and sadness. We help clients to locate, challenge and address the thoughts and events that have created their negative behavioural references. These are known as ‘schemas’. By doing this, it allows you to challenge and condition or change these behaviours. But first… Let’s go into more detail on what a schema is.

What is a schema?

‘Schema’ can sound rather academic, but it’s simply a term used in psychology:

A schema is a cognitive framework or concept that helps organise and interpret information. Schemas allow us to take shortcuts in interpreting the vast amount of information that is available in our environment.

Essentially, schemas are learnings that we acquire in our life. They can be both good and bad. If we have had a positive life, we will have an abundance of positive schemas, but if we have endured negative life events, then invariably we will have a plentiful supply of negative behavioural schemas.

These negative schemas are the culprits which cause low confidence, self-esteem and ultimately anxiety (and anxiety disorders) such as phobias, obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), panic attacks and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Schemas are the basis of all opinions, thoughts and beliefs. Depending on the age at which they were created, they can often be inaccurate and nonsensical.

We will continue to believe everything we don’t challenge.

Extract from our book, Conquering Anxiety. Please keep an eye on our TikTok channel for new uploads every week, with specific videos on anxiety. Also, we’d love to see you at one of our upcoming workshops this year, where we go into much greater detail on our approach, tips, techniques and methods.

Nik & Eva Speakman

We have studied and worked together since 1992. Between us we have studied human behaviour and psychology for seven decades. We both share an uncontainable passion to offer hope and to help people lead happier and less inhibited lives.

After many remarkable breakthroughs we created our own behavioural change therapy, ‘Schema Conditioning.’® Subsequent work with trauma victims and their related symptoms, led to the creation of two further trauma-based therapies.

‘Schema Conditioning Psychotherapy.’®

‘Visual Schema Displacement Therapy (VSDT)’®

‘Visual Schema Detachment & Restructuring (VSDR)’®

Qualifications from the creation of our therapies, resulted in training psychology professors, doctors and masters students at Universities in Amsterdam and Utrecht. In 2015, this training produced the two sets of scientific studies conducted into the workings of our therapy; the first two study papers highlighting the remarkable efficacy, was published in the Journal of Behaviour Therapy and Experimental Psychiatry in June 2019. A further third study was then published in the European Journal of Psychotraumatology in April 2021, with a fourth clinical study with hospital patients is currently underway and will be completed by the end of 2022.

In addition to members of the public, we work with, and have treated many high-profile clients and ‘A’ list clients around the world, having had prodigious successes. We are resident therapists on ITV’s multi award-winning ‘This Morning’ and have been for over a decade, we have also had own television shows, one of which, ‘The Speakmans’, also aired on ITV and several countries worldwide. Over the last two decades we have appeared on numerous other television shows as experts, such as the multi award-winning Saturday Night Takeaway.

Our mission is to illuminate that there is ALWAYS HOPE and that overcoming trauma and improving quality of life is entirely possible. Many people have either never been given hope, or worse had hope taken away from them, our aim is to correct that by sharing our message in any way we possibly can, including live workshops, theatre tours, books, podcasts, radio, television, social media and YouTube.

At the heart of all we do, is our relentless mission to offer HOPE to as many people as we possibly can.

https://nikandeva.com
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